“If you choose to not deal with an issue, then you give up your right of control over the issue and it will select the path of least resistance.”
― Susan Del Gatto
Choices – we are confronted with them on a daily basis. We can choose how we spend our day, how we react to situations around us, how we spend our free time. The easiest path may be the path of least resistance. Just do what’s easiest and ignore the hard tasks. Sometimes we choose to stay numb, to shut out the thoughts and emotions that we fear, to not examine our life or relationships.
But that’s a powerless attitude – and you are not powerless! You have the power to choose to move forward, to come unstuck.
Making choices is hard work – I get that, I really do. And to make matters worse, you have to make those hard choices every day. For instance, you have to constantly work to maintain your health…your relationships…or your bodies become unhealthy, your relationships stagnate.
When you do not choose to grow or move forward every day, you are by default choosing to stay stuck…be it in an unhealthy body…or staying miserable or depressed…or rooted in fear.
That is difficult to hear, isn’t it? Because it means you cannot blame anyone else…you cannot shame yourself or burry yourself under guilt… You have to take complete ownership and responsibility for where you’re at.
So, how do you go about choosing to move ahead when you’ve run away from it for a long time? First, you need to take it one day and a time, one or two choices at a time. And if you slip up occasionally, be kind to yourself. Old habits, especially those stemming from fear, are hard to break. Beating yourself up for slipping once in a while really won’t help.
Another thing that really helps is to write down the new habit, or the new choice you want to make, and the alternative to not going after that choice. Sometimes, when you write down what will happen if you do not make a new choice…if you do not choose to come unstuck…it is all the motivation you need to change course.
I can choose to ________ or I can keep on _______.
So go ahead. Make those choices. Move forward. You can do it! I’m rooting for you!
Do you have other tips and strategies that help you make the brave choice? Do share them in the comments.