{P} The Kindness Revolution: Be Positive

Happiness is a human birthright for everyone. – The Dalai Lama

One way to be kind to ourselves is to be able to choose happiness…and the way to do that, I believe, is to choose positivity. We can focus on everything that is wrong around us – the unfairness of a colleague getting promoted ahead of you, not having “enough” friends (whatever enough means) – or we can acknowledge those things, but focus on the things that are right – having the time to do the things you love, perhaps.

If you take a few moments to think about it, you’ll realize that there probably are a whole bunch of positive emotions or experiences that you aren’t even aware of. There’s so much to be grateful for each and every day… each and every minute…your very life, each breath, each action that you take for granted – walking, talking, smelling, seeing – is a miracle.

postivity-dalai-lamaWhen you view life with what I call “miracle lenses” {a combination of an attitude of gratitude and maintaining a positive frame of mind}, something amazing starts to happen. Miracles multiply. You find an increasing number of things to be thankful for. And you’re filled with peace and hope and joy. You start to break through old thought patterns that kept you trapped in a certain situation. You are led to the experiences and lessons you need right when you need them – often even before you’re fully conscious that you need them!

But it is hard work. You’re essentially changing your conditioning and your default mode of thinking. That takes time, but it is doable, and it is worth it! You will find yourself scoffing at your positive thoughts…falling back to your negative thought patterns…maybe even resisting this entirely…but if you break through it… if you slowly, one by one, gently and kindly frame your negatives in a more positive way…the miracles will come. Just stick with it…one day…one moment at a time.

Here are a few things you can try:

1. Keep a gratitude journal where you can list a few things you are grateful for every day – a beautiful sunset, the weather, some good news…

2. Print out or write down quotes that inspire you, motivate you, make you happy, and put them up where you can see them

3. Divide a piece of paper into 2 columns. To start with, list out some of your biggest negative thoughts or fears on the left hand column. Then frame them in a more positive, gentle manner on the right.
Here are a few examples: “I can never find {whatever you’re looking for – love, friends, etc}” to “I trust that I will meet the right person when the time is right”
“This is never going to work” to “I have some ideas that could work”

Will you join me in the kindness revolution?

Got any tips and strategies to share? Or maybe you have some questions, thoughts, or different opinions? Whatever the case – I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments!

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